Siobahn’s Story

Siobahn – Alberta

6 years ago I started a new job, which was a new clinical role to this particular clinic. Day one I was told by the two Nurses that “we can’t talk to you because you are management (I was an Advanced Practice Nurse), and that they had assigned me a desk and computer on the 6th floor, yet I was a clinician working on the first floor. I was also told that the Nurse that was not present that day would probably glom on to me because I had a degree, and they called her “princess”. I was appalled, but I thought that with time they would be less anxious about working with an APN. When I did meet the BSc.N. Nurse who had been absent that day, she was delightful, welcoming, professional and a veritable expert in her field having traveled the world to present papers and do training for other Nurses and Physicians in our area of expertise. She was obviously bullied by them, but had a lot of seniority. And I still had no clue what workplace bullying was until I researched it after my own experience.

I spent a year trying to find my foothold. My clinical practice was blocked, patient appointments cancelled, my role was diminished. And no one, even the people in charge of the clinic would speak directly to me. I’d hear about changes to my practice that were made without my input. I opened my house for a Christmas get together, and I overheard one of the Physicians say “what is she doing that for”? When the toaster oven died, I brought in a toaster I had never used to replace it until a new toaster oven was purchased. I overheard a secretary say “what did she do that for”? During that year my Dad was dying of cancer, and on occasion I’d take a long weekend and vacation days to make the 4 hour flight back home to see my parents. I never took time I was not entitled to. I frequently wondered why I was working there as they would not let me work to scope. In time I found they were leaving me charts to call patients about prescriptions, which was definitely their job. They moved the phone to my desk so I would take all the day to day inquiries. They continued to be very critical of the other Nurse, but I never said a peep. (bystander) Big mistake. In February of 2010 my Dad died, leaving my Mom who had early Alzheimer’s to struggle with the reality. When I got back to work I asked for a few days to do catch up, and that seemed to set off an tsunami of revenge. I was accused of actions that never occured. I was accused of failing a course I was taking which was totally false, I was excelling…and I never disclosed my academic activities, and they knew nothing of it. I was told I was not the ANP they were hoping for, yet never once did they allow me to belong, engage me, or talk to me. The two Nurses had turned the office against me, and so fueled the physician managers that they came and spewed their vitriol and falsehoods on me. I had no idea that I was being bullied behind my back. The odd quirky behaviors that I had wondered about, were in fact part of a mobbing scheme. When I was dehumanized and humiliated by the Doctors, they came with accusations, not inquiry. I was not asked. I was told who I was by people who had NO IDEA who I was and what I was capable of…they had never given me the chance to do what I was hired for. When one of the Doctors was done decimating me, I was weeping uncontrollably and she left me in an exam room, alone, patting me on the shoulder as she left. I was there for over an hour sobbing. The whole office knew what had happened. I wanted to take cold water and regain some composure, but all the exam room had was hot water. I took alcohol swabs and tried to reduce the redness from my face. After an hour I skulked from the room into the adjacent office that I shared with the other three Nurses. Not a word was said. The next day an email was sent widely around the office telling everyone including the cleaning lady that there were going to be changes in my schedule, and what I was going to be doing, and that I was going to be under the supervision of the two bully Nurses, even though I was an APN with more education and experience than they had. There was no consultation with me. I tried to contact my Nursing Manager who did not work in our building, and did very little in the way of leadership, and she tarried. She had a series of excuses for not meeting. As the weeks went on, I was increasingly anxious and dehumanized. When I finally made an appointment with my Nursing Manager, I waited 45 minutes while she chatted it up with a colleague in her office. That was when I finally broke down. I left and went straight to my Physician. I was diagnosed with a major depressive disorder and PTSD. While I was off work, people were looking at my facebook page and accusing me of being unprofessional etc etc. I finally unfriended everyone, except the one person I thought I could trust. That’s when I found out she was printing off my facebook pages and circulating them to the Managers and Physicians. Because I had been out for coffee with my husband, and tried to put on a brave face, I was considered unprofessional. HR was aware of the toxic, triangulating environment for ten years, and had the gall to ask me why I didn’t do something about it? I persisted in trying to get the employer to be accountable to their mission vision and values, even though I was suffering. I tried every which way to get them to be open and honest about what happened and acknowledge the great harm done to me. It never happened. The more I sought transparency, the more I was vilified. But, I just couldn’t understand how a health care organization with such well written and ethical policies would behave unethically. After 6 years, I finally understand. They still don’t want to admit it. Organizations like this have deep pockets for Lawyers and legal defense. They don’t care about the soul of hard working individuals. Their sole objective is to look good, and win. Period.

I still suffer greatly from the consequences of workplace bullying. I’m a grandmother who worked hard to get educated, and I feel like I have had my heart ripped out. My advice to people in this predicament is to start looking for another job as soon as you see the signs. Switch as soon as you can. This mobbing behavior is not incidental, it is ingrained. Jump ship and save yourself. As my therapist has reminded me, toxicity is a trickle down effect in organizations…its not trickle up. Run for your life.

Liz’s Story

Liz – United Kingdom

I once took my employer to an industrial tribunal. Now there’s something I never thought I’d do.

I loved working there. I did well and enjoyed it. I got on really well with my boss – we respected and challenged each other and made a fantastic team.

Things weren’t going so well at home. My husband had all sorts of allergies. He wasn’t enjoying work. He felt he deserved more and wasn’t getting it.

A promotion opportunity came up. My dream job. It would mean moving up North, but I was ambitious and excited and the company would pay for my relocation. My husband could have a year off and go back to university. I would be the breadwinner.

And then herein lies the rub. My new boss was a woman. She called herself G.O.D. (She did! I’m not making it up! She gave herself the title of General Operations Director and abbreviated it to G.O.D!) She was my previous boss’s wife. So, in the new arrangement, I was to report to G.O.D, and she would report to her husband. Add in that she was older than me, underqualified for the position she held, and seemingly insecure in her marriage to a much younger man, and you can clearly see it was a recipe for disaster.

A week or two prior to the move, I questioned it with her. I asked if she thought we would get along, as I was already picking up that we wouldn’t. She said that she wanted the move to take place and wanted me to work for her. I pushed my reservations aside and continued with the relocation.

At first I enjoyed my new job. It was right up my street and I had the respect of my colleagues. Then strange things started to happen. Five times I arrived at work to find my office had been moved, all my files in boxes in a different room. Meetings I arranged were mysteriously cancelled. Rumours about me started circulating. People started looking at me differently. It was awful.

I turned to my husband for support. According to him it was “all my fault” – I wasn’t trying hard enough, I was saying the wrong things, I wasn’t responding correctly – in essence I just wasn’t good enough. I became confused and lost my way. I had to leave the office regularly and go for a walk so that my colleagues wouldn’t see my tears.

I need to talk to someone. HR? There was no Human Resources department even though the company employed several hundred people. G.O.D.’s boss? Disaster! It was his wife we would have been talking about.

Over nine months it became completely impossible. I lost all my confidence in all my abilities. In the end I resigned. Apparently she said “one down two to go”. I didn’t learn that until years later.

G.O.D.’s husband called me into his office. I was relieved – we were going to talk about it after all. Instead he said, “Clear your desk and go”. I was devastated. I held my head high, said “Excellent”, span on my heel and left.

We settled out of court the day before the tribunal. It had been a dreadful few months. Witnesses had backed out because they feared for their jobs, documents which would have backed my case had simply “disappeared” from the files. I knew she would lie in court. I was a mess, my confidence had gone and I was afraid to face her. I was afraid she would destroy me.

They offered me a settlement. I turned it down. They made offers all day and I accepted the last one. I told myself that they would have fought it out if they believed her, and by offering the money they were accepting liability for constructive dismissal. So I took it.

At the time it was the worst experience of my life. I was left questioning everything. I had no confidence. I felt let down by the company, and by people I had trusted.

I had got on well with her husband, but it was a working relationship. I enjoyed the challenge, but I didn’t want any other relationship with him. I don’t think she saw that. I think she saw me as a threat. So she quietly and systematically worked to get rid of me.

After that I thought I was unemployable and I have never worked for anyone else again – I have been self-employed for 20 years. I have also struggled with potential conflict situations with clients and have tended to bend over backwards til my back breaks rather than deal with it, because I experienced dealing with the completely irrational way back then.

I expected a few problems in the workplace from men having started out in the 80’s and have experienced my fair share of sexism. What I didn’t expect is the treatment I received at the hands of another woman.

I kept all this in for 20 years because I thought that if I told anyone they would see me in a bad light and it would affect my career. What I can see now is that it has affected my career anyway. It is a relief to finally talk about it, it feels as if a great weight has been lifted from me. I am looking forward to finding out how high I can fly now that I am not carrying that weight anymore.

James’s Story

James – Alaska

In response to You can change a workplace bully, and here’s how article:

I always approach this subject with a lot of interest, as I have experienced being bullied from a very early age. I entered the State of Oregon, Welfare Home System at an early age, (4 yrs old). I was in & out of these places (Foster Homes) until the age of 17, when I went into the military. I was in thirteen of these welfare homes & consequently, thirteen different schools. I was the focal point of the school bullies in each one of the different schools I attended. I was usually poorly attired, underfed & at times, not provided with running water nor a flush toilet! It became painfully obvious to me that I was always “someone else’s dog”! So I take issue with some of your points or positions in your article on changing bullies behavior.

1. When you combine a bully mentality with alcohol or other chemical dependency situations, it changes the mental dynamics of how many options one has of altering the offenders behavior. These people are real scary to be around, as I have been “stomped on” in the work place by this situation.

2. When a bully has a mental condition, let alone coupled with a chemical dependency, it has its’ own dark corridors of abuses.

3. In your article, the following statement is made: ” You can’t, however, expect a bully to change his ways of his own volition”. I take serious issue with this statement for the following reasons:

a) In the majority of the welfare homes I was in, the beatings, screaming & threats of abuse were administered by women.

b) The school teachers were also a part of this treatment, were mostly women & set the stage about how I was perceived & treated, (bullied) by the rest of the class.

c) In my failed marriage’s, I had to struggle for my life to wrest a pistol from my intoxicated & mentally unbalanced spouse, as she was intent on punishing me for disagreeing with her on some trivial matter. She has also physically assaulted me. She was identical to her insane & abusive father who bullied the whole family. They have an inherited mental illness & are very controlling & destructive bullies to family members.

d) Every marriage has been dominated & controlled by a bullying spouse, sometimes very physical, always threatening. I also realized, that I was marrying my “Welfare Mothers”!

4. I have observed the same dominate & bullying characteristic’s in female co-workers & supervisors in my 36 years of working on TAPS & in construction. When I see this behavior being manifested, I duck & run, because I am well aware of how pervasive it will be. The damage that is done before management is aware of it goes long & deep. They do not want to touch the subject of female bullies, as it is not politically correct.

5. The supervisor who is a bully also has a support team that assists the bully & has their back, so it is not easy to expose the behavior in an entrenched work group.

I have always looked forward to reading your articles, & pass on information to family & co-workers whenever the situation warrants…

Designer’s story

Designer – India

I was selected for a Sr. Manager position in one of the software companies in India. I had been selected by a manager who was not liked by his Vice President. I did not know all this and I was selected to be in a lead role. The Vice President managed to send the manager by whom I was selected and after this the Vice President started troubling me like any thing. the bullying started with cancelling the approval for my bills, keeping watch dogs on my movements, talking sarcastically about me in front of everyone. I was also not given work for some time, deducted my salary for wrong reasons, encouraged other team members to criticise me, created wrong evidences, sent my resume to job portals. If I take work from home for personal reasons, made calls in the name of consultants and was checking whether iam looking for job opportunities outside the company.very suscipicious, was very manipulative in appraisals but was always involving me in strategy and decisions , was stealing all my ideas and pretended as if those were his ideas. I should not take even one day leave while he can not come to office for more than 15 days in month. He was always attacking on personal matters. Finally decided to quit and he created obstacles while I was searching for jobs and still creating trouble to me with his network.

Becky’s story

Becky – Wisconsin

It was a year ago today that I lost my job of 10 years to Workplace Bullying. It has been a very traumatic and difficult time for me and I’m not even close to being healed from it. This is a very real thing that is occurring every day in the employment sector. It’s not just your “butting heads” or clicking with your boss, supervisor or co-worker. It’s a form of harassment and abuse. It’s like the school yard bully? But instead of being physically beaten up, you are emotionally and mentally beaten up and traumatized. Unfortunately, there is no law to protect us here in the US. I am still trying to find a full time position and at my age it is next to impossible. All employers and employees should be educated on this situation.

Thank you to all of you that have loved me, supported me and listened to my cries this past year. I have already shared my story with you, so you can look it up if you wish. I am so grateful for this site. It helps knowing you are not alone.

Linda’s Story

Linda – Alaska

Started work with company in 2014. The first week two women had quit; one literally telling the supervisor off. I knew in my interview that the supervisor micromanaged her employees, watching us all on camera’s in the office. She and I began bumping heads big time. She outright bullied and made all employees feel uneasy. The work environment was toxic, period. I left the company looking for other work. During 2015, I worked for them on call while still searching for a better job. First part of this year, I was putting in more hours, and I learned to stand up to her finally. During this time I was back, the owner was outright rude, disrespectful, and a bully himself. Five minutes to 5:00pm, he overheard me say a vulgar word. And he turns around yelling at me in front of the other employees. Now, all the girls downstairs swears time to time. So after 5, I went upstairs to apologize. The owner turned around put his finger in my face stating, “you’d better be”. I replied whoa, there’s no need for that. And again, points his finger in my face, yelling “I own this company. I will treat you however I want to. I own this company”, then turns and walks away. I said to him, well you’re being a bully. He takes a few steps, looks at my supervisor screaming, you get her out if here. I was shocked.

Since I came back to work full-time, I was treated indifferent compared to others, and he was always cold to me.

Now that I’m our of there beginning last Friday, the indigestion I was experiencing, as well as the gnawing in my gut finally went away.

It’s unbelievable that he’d behave like he did. I mean, really? Now I’m dealing with Unemployment, again, regarding this same employer

Robert’s story

Robert – Pennsylvania

An Anniversary of which I will never forget.

It’s been three years (January 25, 2013) since I had lost my position as a Tandem Consultant / developer (January 2013) in Warrendale PA. I still remember everything that had happened to me as if it was yesterday. My boss had told me that I was doing a great job, and out of the clear blue, I was terminated three weeks later. Little did I know that this was my last position.

After that horrifying experience I had decided to come forward with my story. I was on several Blog Talk Radio shows and I recently published a book about my experiences. I’m not looking for any sympathy. What I’m really doing is searching for anyone who may have had similar experiences of being bullied in the work place. To my surprise I haven’t found anyone. Thus far it seems that what has happened to me is somewhat unique. What’s unique is the fact that I have been harassed by the same ex-co-worker at more than one job location.

When this guy first turned on me back in 2005 , when I worked at Company_X, with his very aggressive form of harassment (bullying). And after my latest experience while I was working at Company_Z, I realize that he will continue with harassing me whenever we are both in the same area.

He was evidentially interviewing for a new position with Company_Y Corporation which is located in the same building where I was working. With my experience with him in the past, I know what he’s really capable of. This is probably the main reason as to why he got me fired. He also most likely gets a real boost to his ego.

I told my story about what had happened to me in Warrendale PA on Hubpages at: To this day many people I tell my story to just can’t believe that this actually happened.

I first met Morris shortly before 911 in 2001 when my boss had me transferred into a new department. Long story short, we became great friends and I was asked by my new manager at Company_X to teach him the stuff I’m responsible for.

My new boss felt that every system we are responsible for in our department should have a backup and the systems that I was responsible for was no exception.

For several years we worked together until one day during our lunch break in 2005, Morris began telling me just who he really was. That he was going to do something to me that I would not like but he evidentially saw something that I didn’t see.

The next morning he accused me of talking behind his back. I realize now that this was just some lame excuse to demonstrate or show anger towards me. Regardless as to what I said, he eventually became my absolute worst nightmare and assaulted me day in and day out.

When I saw him while working in Warrendale PA , it was like da-ja view and a lot of horrible memories with this person had come to the surface. He comes into my life defaming my character to the point where it reached my managers at the company I worked for and to my surprise I was terminated. If he wasn’t there I would still be working there and would not be in the financial situation that I’m in now.

After I was let go, I figured I had two choices. Go postal or work at doing something positive by helping others who find themselves being targeted by bullies. I chose the second, more positive direction. Thus far I designed, developed, and published anti-bully apps (Bully Proof Assistant) for android and I-phones (recently submitted to apple for review).

My idea was actually taken from a discussion I had with an employment lawyer. He told me that when you are being bullied, you need to document all bullied activity. The best form of documentation is of an email which is sent to HR or someone else who can come to your immediate aid for help and support. What your actually doing is keeping an accurate accounting of all bullied activity in the form of a paper trail (e-mail correspondence).

Besides working on my anti-bully apps, I also had created a couple of web sites where someone who is being bullied can go to get the help and support they need. I also have been working hard with and other anti-bully organizations as part of my anti-bully campaign.

The real question we need to ask ourselves is why do companies allow such behavior to occur in the work place. One reason may be that they don’t know what to do when one is discovered. The person who bullied me should have been immediately fired. But instead, I wound up with the short end of the stick.

Today, most if not all companies take steps to prevent this from happening. Annual employee ethics tests as well as allowing fellow employees to report such behavior anonymously. Bullies do exist in most companies and when you’re targeted, you must work towards taking immediate action to bring a swift end to it.

I have made several mistakes over the years with being bullied. The following is a few of the major mistakes. Hopefully you can learn from my mistakes.

1. Not reporting to HR when I should have. If anyone out there is being bullied I would strongly suggest that you find someone in HR that you are comfortable with so that you will feel more at ease with reporting any assault. Then report what’s going on. My big mistake was only reporting to my manager who basically swept everything under the rug. You need to get an outsider involved ASAP.

2. I always took everything the bully said to me an others personally. I always was on the defensive when I should have realized that the bully basically lies and pulls strings whenever and wherever he/she can.

3. When the bully invited everyone on the team to lunches or outings (where I was deliberately not invited), I should have tagged along regardless what the bully thought or said.

4. Work hard to get some of the bystanders to stand behind you instead of the bully. This is how the bully will lose power.

5. If you are having any thoughts of suicide or feelings of getting even (going postal) you need to step back, take a deep breath, and seek professional help. You don’t want to do anything that you will regret later.

6. Familiarize yourself with any anti-bully laws in the state where you are employed.

7. Familiarize yourself with any anti-bully policies with the company where you are currently employed.

8. Browse the internet and check out the many anti-bully web sites that are available to you. You will find a wealth of free information and support. Bullies in the work place are like a horrible cancer which needs to be cut out immediately. If you find that you are working in an environment which harbors bullies, my advice to you is to look for another job.

Damari’s Story

Damari – California

I was also the only one he treated like this..All he needed to do was be kind, show kindness. I want to bring more awareness to work place bullying in 2016 to help others not have to deal with bullies for bosses. The laws need to change!!! What will they do about work place bullies and bullying, it needs to stop…I was fired 12 days before Christmas…
I use to like people but a bully shot me down! Bosses should lead employees not Bully…Yes not from bullies! What about work place bullies?! Remember bullies come in all shapes and sizes….I was bullied by an adult named Jeff last name removed for protection, my manager at Citibank in Carmel, Ca…after he successfully made me sick with nerves and caused my blood pressure to go up he fired me via UPS 12 days before Christmas while I was out on a workers comp pending case…my family will never forget the pain he caused us….and I haven’t worked since due to all of this.
Jeff last name removed for protection once told me that I couldn’t wear the hats I’d been wearing to work for almost four years with no problem. He said it was company policy yet there was nothing in writing. I called HR and they said there was nothing in the codes about hats. About six weeks later Jeff last name removed for protection decided to tell me that I could wear hats again but only a couple days a week. I asked him what about the policy and he replied ” I’m in control” , it was his way of throwing his weight around, what a bully! He also threatened to fire me for job abandonment if I didn’t show up to work on a day I couldn’t work, my daughter was ill and he was already fully staffed. He put me on the schedule at the last minute to pressure me into working…a Bully at his finest. He also stated that I hadn’t worked on days that I had and I still have a copy of the schedules.
Bullying needs to end and companies need to properly train manages to be leaders not bullies! What will politicians do about it? Nothing! We need to unite and do something about adult bullying and in the work place!
I have two boxes of proof and I did document everything. When I realized that there is actually an Awareness month for anti bullying I decided to tell my story again in hopes of finding an organization that I can help bring light to this also very ugly issue!
What I have mentioned is just a bit of all he did. No one cared or did anything about it. I wrote my leaders, congressmen , senators , mayors, city leaders, the president , attorney general, etc…everyone past the buck. Since then, bullying has come to the forefront and I want to tell my story.
He is a father of 3 sons, still a ” manager” , on the board of trustees for a school district and I can’t help but wonder who he is bullying now.
He had choices and he chose to be unkind, uncaring, not understanding, treated me like crap, ignored what others where doing, focused on me until he ruined me!
ALL BULLIES NEED TO BE STOPPED!!!!! All companies need Bullying training and the manager isn’t always right! Only cowards bully other people! He didn’t care what I was wearing he simply wanted to show who was in control and bully me. The hats didn’t prevent me from doing my job nor did anyone ever complain about them, in fact I got lots of compliments from customers and a couple of his bosses and someone from HR, it’s was great until he showed up as a temporary manager. He just wanted me gone and set out to wrongfully terminate me. He couldn’t even write me up correctly and I have the proof. He couldn’t even fire me correctly as he broke California Labor codes in the process of firing me. He was simply unkind and heartless to me.
Please grow up to be a kind, caring person. Never purposely make someone fear their going to loose their job for putting their daughter first, that’s what he did to me…and yet he is a father.
Time to open their eyes and our leaders and change the laws. Speak the truth state the facts and have your evidence ready! One of the reasons I am doing this is because I have proof, my journal, the forms he used to write me up incorrectly. He was in such a hurry to write me up that the first time he wrote me up he used the wrong form, he used the second warning form. He threatened me with job abandonment yet didn’t know how that law worked. For some reason the universe, my God or what ever you want to believe, had me keep all the evidence. In my journal I wrote daily of what occurred at work, he singled me out. In four and a half years I loved my job 98 percent of the days then he came and ruined not only me but the spirit of that bank branch. He took away causal Friday and tried to take away cookies on Fridays for our customers. He said we all had to only eat in the break room but yet would eat at his desk and not say anything to the pretty blonde when she ate at her station. He took all my family photos down and claimed it was best for my family but allowed others to have their family photos out! A BULLY!!!!please share my story to bring awareness to work place bullying.

Carol’s Story

Carol – California

I had an outstanding career in education.  I moved from a job as a teacher through the ranks of dean, assistant principal, principal, staff development specialist, and near the end superintendent.  I encountered a bully or two, and those encounters were pretty tough, but I prevailed.  At the end of my career, though, I walked away from a job I loved because I was bested by a bully–someone who did not want to do his job, did not want to be accountable, and did not like it that I was clear about my expectations. I did not realize that this popular man began a whisper campaign against me, starting among men who were his drinking buddies and then moving through the entire school district.

He had bullied others in the workplace before but because he was considered such a gifted educator and such a wonderful person, when I had heard complaints, I tended to discount them.  And then–I became the target when his wife was elected to the school board and became one of my five bosses.  She, too, was a popular, attractive, young community member, and together the two of them whipped negative sentiments against me into a frenzy.  Finally, someone on my leadership team showed me an email that had come to him, and I had to face what was happening.  I had no skills, no awareness of response options that are more effective than others.  Every effort I made to confront him or respond to him he used against me.  When I realized the wife had turned three of the five board members against me, even though I had a contract for two more years, I accepted a job two hours away from home at much lower pay and took the exit.  I left with my dignity intact, with absolutely not one word out of my mouth or pen as I exited that this was anything other than what I wanted to do for myself and my family.  I was grateful I had come to a point in my career when I could take this step.

Nevertheless, I grieved over the departure and the slander, and it has taken me five years to feel strong enough to walk through my community (as I did not move away) with my head high.  What has helped me most, sadly, was the opportunity to observe this same couple turn their poison on my successor–and others–and to see the community come to understand the self-serving natures of these two people.  Their ugliness escalated.  He was held accountable to do his job by his next boss, and finally they both moved away–she because she was going to have to run for the board position again and was so reviled she knew she would not be elected; he because he couldn’t bully and blackmail his way into the football coaching position he wanted and so he left in a huff.  I feel like I won in the end, but it was a long-time coming and there were casualties beyond myself along the way.  I hope this helps others.  Bullying can happen to anyone at any level in any organization.  It’s a topic that everyone should become aware of before they discover they’re victims.

Leigh’s Story

Leigh – Ontario

Just when I thought my days of fear were over my bully co worker had moved on, just when I was enjoying peace at work and enjoying life again everything changed.  Management changed and morale plummeted wherever this one manager went.  She spoke in a condescending tone to everyone and any conversation I had with her I left feeling about two feet tall.  For me things did not improve but got worse.

My mother passed away quite suddenly a month ago and that’s when she turned mean.  Even co workers who witnessed her actions said it was over the line and wrong.  We do have strong union prescience to help and there will be opportunities to transfer to another job and work under another manager in the coming months it’s a matter of getting through each day in the meantime.